Let’s face it, all of us have our insecurities. Realizing you don’t measure up to your perceived notion of a super mom can leave you feeling like a total failure. When you feel inadequate, remember that being a good mother in God’s eyes is more important. The Bible gives us some clear directions on what it takes to be a good mother.
* A mother’s love is founded upon the premise of loving someone more than self.
“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.” Deuteronomy 6:5 (KJV)
Our heart is defective. Our mindset is selfish. Our thoughts mirror the inner being, while our words reflect the attitudes of our heart. Our heart must be changed so we can understand and obey His Word. The Word says we are to love our Lord and the second is to love our neighbor as we love ourselves (Matthew 22:23).
* A godly mother fears the Lord, showing Him reverence, obedience, and honor. She serves Him by serving others.
“Thou shalt fear the Lord thy God, and serve Him, and shalt swear by His name. Ye shall not go after other gods…” Deuteronomy 6:13-14a
She demonstrates her reverence for the Lord by her obedience. She keeps His commands and obeys His laws. Her service to Him begins with her family, then extends to others. She serves them selflessly, as if she were serving her Lord. She does not play favorites, but values each as uniquely created by God for His purpose.
* A righteous mother teaches her children the Word.
“And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Deuteronomy 6:7
A mother does not leave her children to raise themselves, but actively teaches them the Word of God. She models righteousness before them, and demonstrates the character of Christ. When she fails, she confesses her sin and seeks forgiveness in humility.
* A mother is to be diligent in her work.
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
Children need a role model that demonstrates a good work ethic. Mother shows herself to be diligent in performing her duties. She works willingly, establishing a model of industry and excellence. She does not procrastinate, but is faithful. She is a good manager who uses her time wisely.
* A mother takes care of herself.
“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” 1 Peter 3:3-5
Many believe that the outward appearance is more important than the inner being. Peter tells us that a meek and quiet spirit is far more valuable. Yet Mother is not a doormat, to be trod upon by rebellious and demanding children. She cares for her physical and spiritual health. She spends time in the Word and in prayer bringing her petitions to the Lord. She gets the rest she needs so she can maintain a gracious attitude and word.
* A mother presents a modest appearance.
“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;” 1 Timothy 2:9
Her children and her husband are not ashamed or embarrassed by her outward appearance because she wears modest attire that is well kept, not ragged or ill fitting. She is not extravagant, nor does she model the outrageous. She is regarded for her sobriety and grace.
* A mother uses her words wisely and kindly.
“Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
A foul mouth is surely displeasing to the Lord. Curse words should have no place in your mouth. Remember your children will learn how to use words by listening to you. Try to practice kindness in all that you say. James tells us in 1:19 to “be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.” Words once spoken cannot be retrieved and can do inestimable harm.
Finally let us put on the fruits of the Spirit:
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23
We may fail at times in our efforts, but we will keep on in the power of the Holy Spirit, realizing that mastering these disciplines is a lifetime endeavor.