Sunday, was the last good bye to our friend and mentor, Ron Wood. His wife (oh, widow) had ensured that it was a celebration because that was what Ron wanted: no morbid faces – no funeral food – but a gathering to remember him and to be happy for him, for now he was with Jesus! So that’s what we did! We celebrated him with service and music and song (country & western at that), and we ate birthday cake that proclaimed a Welcome Home!
It was poignant and tearful, but also humorous and uplifting; so Ron’s wishes were respected and honored. Brenda and his family ‘did’ well – they spoke with poise, of the man they all loved and had been blessed to have in their lives – and we supported his widow – letting her know that we were there, as much for her as for Ron.
Today, I visited her and she is weary – it has been a long rugged pathway they both travelled due to illness, but she is at peace, but so lonely, it will take time to become accustomed to aloneness – do we ever really get used to it, after many years of happiness and companionship with someone who was loving, fun and sentimental?
James 1:27b – reminds us “to visit orphans and widows in their trouble” – it encourages us to remember the family members left behind – not to let our visits and offers of help stop now that the funeral is over. Yes, life goes on – but it is so important to continue to show how much we care – that vacant spot in those lives needs refilling, daily with loving, caring people who will emotionally and physically (if need be) assist in the new life ahead of the loved ones, who right now are mourning their loss.
So, me included, remember to visit, to send a card, to make a telephone call, to invite over for a meal or visit anyone you know of that is grieving the loss of someone dear. Let us not neglect them (Acts 6:1b)
Prayer: Father God, remind us – daily – to remember those who are feeling loneliness in their lives, due to the death whether sudden or anticipated, of someone near and dear to them. Amen!