“7 The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground. Suffering for Doing Good” -1 Peter 3:7
The other day my wife and I were doing some grocery shopping and I overheard a man in the next isle make a very rude comment to the young lady he was with. They looked to be the same age and so I assumed they were in a relationship together. I walked around the corner in time to see the results of the comment that had to hurt her straight to her core.
My wife and I attended college together and were both in the religion department. She studied to be a children’s pastor and in many of our classes the assumption was often that pastors were always males. I’ve read job descriptions that state “We’re looking for a guy who is a man of God” or something similar. It angers me that the assumption is that a woman isn’t fit for the job. I work with a woman in ministry who is a great example that many in ministry, male and female, could learn something from. She’s a strong example of being a leader and making tough decisions. So many times we as guys ignorantly put our gender above that of an individual’s skills.
What I find challenging is that in the middle of the 1 Peter 3:7 it says, “As women they lack some of your advantages.” It isn’t that they lack all of our advantages, but just some. This means that there are some things that women are better than we are. That we’re incomplete.
If you’re reading this and you struggle with this I want you to pray to God right now that He’d help you see your wife for how He sees her. That you’re equals in the eyes of our Lord. That we’re not somehow superior to them.