It troubles some people when others do not share their mistakes and how God helped them deal with the aftermath. Many people find it difficult to open up and share problems they have, or the struggles they face as a result of a poor choice or impulsive decision. They are basically afraid to trust others with their burdens. Yet, the Lord tells us to share our burdens so we will be able to comfort and encourage one another.
Unfortunately, for some, residue of betrayal compounds the issues surrounding trust and burden-sharing. Jacob had a hard time with that after he betrayed his brother and father.
Then Isaac said to Jacob, “Come near so I can touch you, my son, to know whether you really are my son Esau or not.” Genesis 27:21
A wife betrays her husband and her son Esau. Jacob betrayed his brother and father. In this account, Isaac relied upon his feelings–the touch of hair upon the arms of his son, but still wasn’t convinced. Minutes later, he queries Jacob again, “Are you really my son, Esau?” Isaac dismissed what he sensed as duplicity when he smelled wild game on Jacob when they embraced. He was fooled.
How do we know how to trust another? When to trust? It varies. I’m usually an open book; I wear my heart on my sleeve. I try to think the best of people. I look for the good in them. Even when I see flaws or find aspects of a person’s personality suspect, I keep giving the benefit of the doubt. I choose to believe. Just like Isaac believed Jacob, even though he did not sound like his son Esau.
It’s doesn’t make any sense that a person we care about would betray our confidences. But it happens. I suppose for me, I am far more likely to open up and trust someone who opens up and trusts me. However that is not the best litmus test. Some people talk your head off just to get you to reveal something about yourself so they can go share it with the first person they run into.
I reserve my innermost trials for a select few who have proven faithful and loyal. I rely on those who never share what another says to them. I find their interest in me, and concern for me, as a safe space for sharing. God brings them into my life in a time of need. They comfort and encourage; they pray and console. I can also trust my pastor and his wife with anything. I can trust my husband completely.
When I am betrayed, I plunge into a world of retreat and isolation. Back, back, back I go, into the arms of God. To Whom I know I can trust completely. Without reserve or fear.
PRAYER: Always, Lord; we can trust You. You are our refuge, the cleft of the rock. We know we can come to You with everything and You will strengthen us, comfort us, and assure us.